Are you sure your partner is truly happy?

Are you sure your partner is truly happy? Or is she just acting out every night to avoid hurting your ego or manhood? Statistics say that about 70 percent of women carry a strange emptiness after being in their marriage, which they cannot tell anyone. Today, we are not here to gossip about anything. We are here to dissect the silent epidemic called the satisfaction gap behind the closed bedroom door. We will find out why modern women are lonely and unsatisfied even in relationships. If you want to understand the science and sociology behind this silent cry and learn the right ways to save your relationship from this breakdown, then let's break down this wall of shame today.

Our society has taught women to be adorned with shame. But society did not say that this excessive shyness and habit of keeping quiet would one day become the silent killer in their married life. Today's discussion is not gossip; it is a social autopsy. Research says that one of the main secret reasons for divorce or extramarital affairs is physical dissatisfaction and mental distance. Now you may be thinking, what is the point of talking about these problems in our Bengali home? Besides, what will I gain from seeing this? The gain is that if you deny this problem, then you are like an ostrich hiding its face in the sand. The problem exists, and it may be eating away at your arranged family like termites without you knowing it. This discussion will teach you that the body is not just a machine, but a complex chemistry of mind and emotions is involved. So, let's put aside this false comfort for a while and find the root of this problem in the biology and psychology labs. What you see on the blue screen and what happens in reality is a huge difference. How wrong education is making our married life mechanical. Misconceptions or myths: Most men get their sex education from the Internet or immoral video sites. They are shown that a woman is always ready, and everything happens very quickly and mechanically. This unrealistic image is embedded in the minds of men. They start thinking that in real life, too, the body is an instant coffee machine. I pressed the switch, and hot coffee came out. But this idea is the main cause of the disaster. Reality Science and medicine say that a woman's body and nervous system are completely different from those of men. Women's bodies are not electric switches. Women's bodies are like slow cookers. They need an average of 10 to 20 minutes more time and proper mental preparation than men to get excited, emotionally connect, and reach the peak of satisfaction. For them, sex is not just physical friction. It is a journey of the whole body and mind. Pleasure gap. This is called the organism gap in research. Men often neglect the preparatory phase or loving moments at the beginning of a relationship, such as talking, touching, or caressing, as an unnecessary waste of time. They go straight to the main task. The result is that the man's game is over before the woman's body is ready. Over the years, this one-sided experience creates a kind of fear, resentment, and reluctance towards physical relations in the woman's mind. She starts seeing it not as pleasure, but as a family responsibility or service to her husband. She is lying on the bed, looking at the ceiling fan, wondering when it will end. Fast internet is good. But fast love is a disaster for relationships.

In this case, the advice is to reduce the speed and increase the feeling; only then will you reach your destination.

Just as the phone hangs if 50 apps are open in the background of the mobile, similarly, if there are thousands of worldly thoughts in the head, the thrill is bound to hang. Let's go to the neurolab to find out about this invisible virus. Which is slowing down the system, but it is not visible.

The silent killer.

The mental load of the family on women in the family is serious. It is not just cooking or washing clothes.

It is the mental stress of managing the entire family. What will I have for tiffin tomorrow morning? Has the electric bill been paid? Has the father-in-law's medicine run out? These thousands of thought tabs are always open in her head. Even at night, her brain can never completely shut down or rest.

The enemy of hormones Biology says that the biggest enemy of sexual desire is the stress hormone, or cortisol. When a woman is stressed all day, the level of cortisol in her blood increases, and if there is cortisol, the body is in fight or flight mode. In this situation, the body cannot go into sexual mode at all. Just understand the difference once. A man may choose physical intercourse as a way to reduce stress or relax throughout the day. But in the case of a woman, the equation is reversed. To engage in intercourse, she first has to be stress-free and relaxed. When you don't help her with the housework, she doesn't understand her fatigue. But when you expect romance at night, you are actually trying in vain to start a dead engine. The hand that spends the whole day washing dishes and operating a laptop does not expect a magical touch at the end of the day. It expects a little rest and cooperation. To put it simply, romance [music] does not start in bed. It starts by helping in the kitchen in the morning. By now, you must understand that the problem is not only in the body, but in the mind. But we will not leave you with just showing you the problem.

We will uproot its psychological roots. Do you know that our society is designed in such a way that women feel ashamed to express their own needs? Let's break down that wall of shame. In our society, girls are taught from childhood not to laugh loudly, to cover their bodies, that shame is femininity. Let's see in sociology class how being a good girl is making them unhappy in their personal lives. The Chain of Shame. Women who grow up in middle-class families feel a deep sense of guilt when talking about their own physical needs, preferences, or fantasies. They have been taught that talking about sex is a bad thing for girls. They think that if I tell my husband that I like this or that, he will think I am a slut. Due to this unreasonable shame, they sacrifice their happiness year after year and accept their partner's wishes as their own.

Dumb Wall

On the other hand, men are not astrologers; they cannot read minds. Women remain silent, hoping that men will understand the language of their eyes, and when men do not complain in a masculine manner, it means that everything is fine. I am performing at my best. This lack of communication creates a huge emotional distance between the two. As dissatisfaction builds up, it eventually turns into anger, irritability, and unnecessary hatred towards their husband. Many times, these unspoken words invite a third person into the relationship. Because people want to escape from where they are not satisfied. There is no medicine for the pain that cannot be talked about.

The message here is that bedroom shame is not a piece of jewelry; it is a wall, and to be happy, that wall must be broken. There has been a lot of discussion about the problem. Now, what is the right solution? Divorce or accepting fate? Absolutely not. Let's sit in a solution room and create a scientific and practical blueprint to reset the relationship.

Men's Role

Create a connection with each other. Emotional connection. Don't see her just as a body. In the case of women, emotional connection opens the door to physical connection. Look for her throughout the day. Listen to her tiredness. Give small compliments. How you treat her during the day will depend on whether she pulls you closer at night. Be patient. Forget the knowledge of the internet or movies. Take time to understand your partner's body and mind. Don't rush. Prolong foreplay or love moments.

Share the load.

This is not a feminist Bully. This is pure logic. Take on the household chores. Reduce the burden of responsibility from his shoulders. When he is relaxed When he is not thinking about tomorrow's tiffin, he can be intimate with you. What a woman should do.

One. Women's role: Guide him. Tell your partner. Tell him what you like; he is not your enemy. Maybe he is ignorant, help him. To understand you This is not to belittle him. It is to make the relationship beautiful.

Two. Know Yourself

First, be aware of your likes and dislikes; you have to take some responsibility for your own happiness.

Three Break the Fear

There should be no shame between husband and wife. Giving importance to your needs in a relationship is not selfishness. This is a sign of a healthy relationship. Relationship is not a one-way traffic. It is a beautiful couple.

The final hack.

Before turning off the lights, search for each other's minds in the light prison. That is where the connection is made.

At the end of this deep analysis, did the frustration stop? Is a physical relationship just a physical need? Absolutely not. Physical relationship is not a performance or Olympic game that how long it lasted or how many times it won. It is a deep connection or connection. It is a language of two people becoming one.

The main reason for women's dissatisfaction is not their bodies. The main reason is that they are not heard, they are not understood, and the burden is not lifted from their shoulders. They come to bed tired and worried and leave disappointed. An unsatisfied woman means an unhappy world where there is no peace. And a satisfied and happy woman means a paradise. The key lies largely in changing our mindset. If we get out of the body and focus on the connection between the mind and the body, if we speak instead of being ashamed, then this problem can be solved. So, instead of trying to be the king in bed, try to be her friend in her mind first. You will see that the rest will fall into place like magic. How did you like today's taboo but important discussion? What do you think? Is this culture of silence in our society the root of all evil? Now it is your turn to break this taboo in the comment box. Share your experiences or opinions, but maintain decency. Make such mature comments that society will understand that we do not know how to get to the root of the problem or tell the truth. After this discussion, I realized that I used to think of my partner as a microwave that heats up at the touch of a switch. Now I understand that it is actually a breathtaking biryani; you have to give it time. Today's question for you. In your opinion, what is the biggest reason for distance in marriage? Lack of time or lack of understanding? Should we be more open about marital education? Has this video brought any change in your thinking? Whose role do you think is more important in solving dissatisfaction or problems? Husband's or wife's? If this video helps you to show the way to a healthy and happy relationship, then hit the like button as if it is a social prejudice and share it so that people you know can also find a way to get rid of this silent crying and save their relationship.